You know the one, ‘Anticipation…. it’s making me wait…’
A man approached me on one of my dating sites and we emailed a bit back and forth. Cute, seems nice, in the service, had a nice profile, was a gentleman in the emails, blah, blah, blah. So I gave him my number and he called me tonight.
I can’t remember the last time I had a conversation with someone that had so many pauses. Now that I think about it, they were more like silences than pauses. It seemed like I had to keep up the end of the conversation with statements about myself and asking him questions. Then when one of us would finish an answer, he wouldn’t say anything. I laughed a few times at that and then he started laughing too. I asked if he was shy and he said not really but just trying to think of what to say next. I was a little surprised by this since his emails seemed witty.
He seemed very nice, normal (aside from the long ass pauses) and a person who seems to have a stable life. Those awkward silences were killing me though. I mean one person can’t hold up the entire conversation. He did ask me questions but only if I held out during a long pause and didn’t ask anything – trying to prompt him. Not sure I really dig having to do all the work here.
I even had to end the call with telling him to call me again and if all goes well to ask me out. He seemed chipper about that. So hopefully maybe it was just nerves on his part and the next time we won’t have awkward silences. Otherwise he won’t get far with me if he can’t carry a small talk conversation. You are cute and sweet but you have to keep my attention and be able to converse with me too sweetheart.