They have a new version of the bachelor this year. The people are plus sized. I like this and not just because I’m a thick chick but because the average American woman is a size 14/16 and NOT a size 2, which is the average size of reality TV women.
TV, movies, magazines, and all media seem to want to push what THEY think YOU SHOULD think is attractive. Brainwashing. The media fails to understand that all people have different tastes and what is attractive to them. It’s sad too because they do so much brainwashing to people (especially men) that bigger is unattractive to the point of men (and women) should be embarrassed or ashamed to be with someone who isn’t the perfect Ken or Barbie.
I even heard on a morning radio show one day these “skinny” women calling in and saying that men don’t like “fat chicks.” Now that may be true for some but after those comments the radio station was flooded with calls from women on the bigger side saying how many men they attract and get attention from. Some of the callers were also men calling in saying they loved plus sized women. They liked thick legs, asses and curves. The men calling in were all different races – white, black, Hispanic, etc.
I’ve actually been on both sides of the scale. I’ve been the Barbie doll. I had no problem getting attention from men or having dates. I have been and now a plus sized girl. I have had no problem getting attention from men or having dates at this size either. Here was an interesting article I posted not long ago on the subject and how bigger girls get a lot more action than you think – even MORE than the thin girls. Do I attract every man at this size? No. Did I attract every man as a Barbie Doll size? No.
I think a lot of people out there would be very, very surprised at just how many men out there like thick women. When I put out a dating personal ad where I was specific about my size, I was flooded with emails. On the dating sites I’m a member of, my profiles describe me physically and includes various pictures of myself. I get lots of emails on those too. These men all vary in age, race and education. Some are blue collar workers and others have PhD’s. Some of these men have athletic builds, average builds and plus sized builds. It’s all over the map.
I think a lot of these men are not embarrassed and don’t give a rats ass about what “society” thinks is normal and attractive but on the flip side I think there are a lot of men who are in the closet – they love bigger women but don’t really publicize it because of fear of being made fun of because society says that’s not cool. I’m friends with a guy that I used to work with who confided in me one day that he was really, really attracted to plus sized women but he married the trophy wife. He told me how unhappy he was in his marriage (and no he wasn’t trying to bed me – he was a good friend confiding in me). When I asked him why he was married to someone he was unhappy with he told me that his friends and even some family members make fun of fat people and would be embarrassed if they saw him with the type of women he was attracted to. He also thought that would hinder him in his success. Having the perfect job and promotions meant also having the perfect looking trophy wife, etc. Yes that seems ridiculous but it’s probably more true than you think. It’s sad to me that a man marries what he thinks society deems acceptable and be in a miserable marriage his whole life vs. being truly happy and not caring what others think.
Hey, I get that some people out there don’t dig it. There are certain physical traits I don’t go for either. That’s totally fine and totally normal. Everyone has different tastes and different ideas of what is sexy and attractive. I am just sick of the media telling us what we should find attractive according to them. About time we had a show that showcases this. I missed the first episode but maybe I can catch it online. I need to tape it for the rest of the season because I really am interested. All the other bachelor and bachelorette seasons I had NO interest in what so ever.